tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post5671542140432427326..comments2024-02-27T14:04:59.432+00:00Comments on dear beautiful {a family lifestyle blog}: my stylelucy at dear beautifulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-37398826425228457082014-10-20T21:54:51.122+01:002014-10-20T21:54:51.122+01:00I love this post Lucy. I surprised myself when I h...I love this post Lucy. I surprised myself when I had my first daughter at just 21, I didn't know what I was capable of until she was born, it really is a matter of maternal instinct with me, of course I get it wrong sometimes, question my abilities, wether i'm worthy to be a mama, then I have the days where I feel like I am owning it, having the right balance. In my experience, I feel I do a better job when im taking care of myself too! I've been questioned why I don't hit my children (really.) I've been questioned why I breastfeed, why I have them close in age, why I don't get stressed about messy paint crafting and so on.. I've had those days where I feel like I should've been calmer, not shouted (haven't we all?) but then the best days out weigh it all. <br /><br />I have no idea why I parent the way I do, all I know is I do it with the passion and unconditional love that will never alter. :) <br /><br />P.s i'm also a trained BF support worker too xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-13142446482048748842014-10-15T23:50:57.389+01:002014-10-15T23:50:57.389+01:00I really don't think I fit into a style of par...I really don't think I fit into a style of parenting, and like yours, my two are so different and require such different things from me that I have parented them differently, but with equal amounts of love. xBex @ The Mummy Adventurehttp://themummyadventure.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-63561418641113612942014-10-15T21:55:59.721+01:002014-10-15T21:55:59.721+01:00I love this post. I think I would have had a simi...I love this post. I think I would have had a similar response to that question - I have generally parented mostly by instinct and perhaps picked up some tips from books here and there in addition to advice from other parents. Love is the most important thing though - if your children are happy, secure and know they are loved, then you are definitely doing it right. Louisehttp://littleheartsbiglove.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-31932273083795246752014-10-14T21:49:53.379+01:002014-10-14T21:49:53.379+01:00What a strange question to be asked. It is rather ...What a strange question to be asked. It is rather random and I too would have felt a bit weird for being asked it. What you say is so true though. Love is definitely key. So long as you show your children as much love as possible then the other stuff is irrelevant. xLeadership Learninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17969626763450950102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-15231869171502699242014-10-14T21:15:26.232+01:002014-10-14T21:15:26.232+01:00Oh Lucy I just sat very tense reading through your...Oh Lucy I just sat very tense reading through your amazing post and thinking about my own parenting and what I thought about the same questions you were asked. I think we all parent differently and all have different children as you say so for there to be actual specific techniques out there is crazy as no one size fits all fits in parenting. I do admit with my first I was a gina ford mommy. I didn't have a clue and I relished in the fact that this book gave me time tables and what to do next when I felt lost and alone with no family around to advice or help. Funny though only a year and half later when I got my second child the book went out the window and I approached things so very differently. I wish I could be a fly on the wall and see what people thought and saw in my children. I hope I am doing something right. I often think I rock and then more than often think I am the worse mommy in the world. depends on the day and they both can happen to me in the same day often too. I think we are all hoping for the same end result I just think some think there really is a perfect method out there and they search for it high and low. Love the photos you have here. They are truly stunning. I hope they are blown up huge on your wall. Framers for sure! You and your family are all so beautiful inside and out. Let's Talk Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07730374182778773358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-86062775222923479612014-10-14T18:58:12.888+01:002014-10-14T18:58:12.888+01:00Love this post! I'm not a particular 'type...Love this post! I'm not a particular 'type' of parent either and I also have worn all those hats, I haven't ever read any books but I do quite frequently stumble across articles on Facebook that really make me question certain ways of doing things and give me new ideas to try. I do try and trust my instincts, I could definitely always be better but like you said love is the most important thing and they definitely have lots of that. Gorgeous pics too xJess @ Along Came Cherryhttp://alongcamecherry.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-57393583112142232612014-10-14T18:43:03.072+01:002014-10-14T18:43:03.072+01:00I wonder whether anyone every does parent exactly ...I wonder whether anyone every does parent exactly by one prescribed 'method'? it seems like that would be incredibly rigid and constraining. Someone once asked me a similar question and I think my response was like yours, somewhere along the lines of "gut instinct". There are days when the method of parenting as me seems to be just perfect and days where I wonder whether I've created the most rat fink little horrors. I suspect I fall nearer to one end of the spectrum than the other but with a fair amount of variation within it and that works for us. I think there's a danger that if you were to spend every night relaxing with all the parenting gospels you could lay your hands on you'd become utterly overwhelmed with information to the point of indecision - with everyone promising that this is the way to bring up a well balanced happy child how on earth would you know what to choose. And given that no two families are the same, and within that family no two children are the same, the idea of a one size fits all formula just seems daft! Love, gut instinct, and young adult fiction for bedtime reading all the way!Carie @ Space for the Butterflieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13060566680311122115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-77531283701609326182014-10-14T13:26:20.548+01:002014-10-14T13:26:20.548+01:00I think some people are just obsessed with parenti...I think some people are just obsessed with parenting "by the book." Also, some parents are very judgey and nosy. I am like you, I just follow my instincts! My kids know their are loved, and that's the most important thing. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03495796091157215318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-40628893856735114552014-10-14T10:53:32.106+01:002014-10-14T10:53:32.106+01:00Love and instinct has to be at the core of parenti...Love and instinct has to be at the core of parenting, I feel that as a mummy of 1 I have been through periods of questioning my parenting and also if people judge me by it or not. I have to snap myself out of those worries as inevitably I see the love and happiness in my daughters face and fundamentally her good morals show me that we have somewhere along the line instilled these into her and she is an all round good human. She can also cause me a few grey hairs and be a little madam from time to time, but what child doesn't! Great post Lucy, I do wish that as parents we can say these feelings and concerns out loud and not worry how we will be received by the other parent but that's just our human nature, no one likes to be judged or seen to be vulnerable, thank goodness for communities and blog posts like yours as at the end of the day, we are all learning and always will be.<br />Beck xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00396556955529783845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-29713470136551344252014-10-14T10:50:05.798+01:002014-10-14T10:50:05.798+01:00I don't think I am a particular kind of parent...I don't think I am a particular kind of parent, in fact I don't think I have ever really thought about what kind of parent I am. I am not one for labels, as such I don't put myself in a Gina Ford/helicopter/baby led/natural parent bracket. I have never even so much picked up a book to tell me how to parent my children. I go with my instinct and I make it up as I go along. I get it wrong A LOT but I also get it right too, and I think thats the main thing. We aren't perfect, no one is, but we are the perfect mothers to our children. And we love them dearly and ultimately thats all that matters. xKatie @mummydaddymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16371578506277998443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-39552791805427352082014-10-14T09:49:57.616+01:002014-10-14T09:49:57.616+01:00Firstly, LOVE those photos.
I would have to say I ...Firstly, LOVE those photos.<br />I would have to say I am similar to you. I think I've worn all of those hats and I'm fine with that. In fact I think in doing that I have found a style that works for us, for now. I can honestly say that I think I will continue to switch hats around as the children get bigger and as we all change.<br />I think the best thing we can do is to forget about the different styles and approaches that are labelled and instead to just go with it. Parenting on demand and being baby led...and even child led (although with us having the power, obviously) as all children are different and all parents/people are different too.<br />Great post Lucy, I really enjoyed that xxLaurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715474029266855903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-66608337225692002592014-10-14T09:46:14.000+01:002014-10-14T09:46:14.000+01:00Loves is all that matters. We can't all be per...Loves is all that matters. We can't all be perfect but kids tend to remember all the love and all the good times we give them.VeeandJadehttp://veeandjade.com/noreply@blogger.com