tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post1579593381336563907..comments2024-03-20T17:11:20.585+00:00Comments on dear beautiful {a family lifestyle blog}: it's always darkest before the dawnlucy at dear beautifulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-8384655293767669662014-03-26T09:40:16.702+00:002014-03-26T09:40:16.702+00:00Hello there! This blog post could not be written m...Hello there! This blog post could not be written much better!<br />Reading through this post reminds me of my previous roommate!<br />He constantly kept preaching about this. I most certainly will forward this information to him.<br /><br />Fairly certain he will have a great read. Many thanks for <br />sharing!<br /><br />my site - <a href="http://Pk56.nl/6pmpromocodes546932" rel="nofollow">6pm coupon</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-29920740842815050882012-12-12T10:48:07.883+00:002012-12-12T10:48:07.883+00:00X I think most mums of more than one child can rel...X I think most mums of more than one child can relate to what you've written, I know I can. Just follow your instincts and everything will be ok xxA Strong Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16121247746854621323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-40602090333386579752012-12-11T12:51:47.994+00:002012-12-11T12:51:47.994+00:00I can SO relate to this. When my 2nd child was bor...I can SO relate to this. When my 2nd child was born, I fully expected him to be just like his sister- but he wasn't. And he never will be. Now my third is here I know that all babies are SO different and I really wish I had taken some time back then to appreciate my son for who he was instead of wishing he was someone else. Good luck- you sound like an amazing mum :)<br />xxxSusanne@babyhuddlehttp://blog.babyhuddle.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-9379830901940714092012-12-10T16:27:52.270+00:002012-12-10T16:27:52.270+00:00A perfect example of how parenting is a learning a...A perfect example of how parenting is a learning and growing process. It sounds like your new swaddling approach and also a more positive outlook have changed things for the better. All children like different things, you just need to test and find them. Trial and error definitely works! Janet Dubachttp://www.mycatholicblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-32360565504668097492012-12-10T14:40:29.351+00:002012-12-10T14:40:29.351+00:00I have been meaning to come and comment on this si...I have been meaning to come and comment on this since I read it on my phone last week (can never comment on blogger on my phone for some reason). I love your honesty in this post and can imagine that it must have been hard to write. I think it's the feelings like this that need to be shared because it is so easy to feel awful and like the worst mum in the world when you have them, I think it's when mums don't feel like it's normal to have such thoughts and start to beat themselves up about it.<br />I have only had a girl so I can't compare but she is definitely hard work sometimes! Swaddling was our lifesaver too, I didn't start it until she was about 7 weeks which is quite late but I did right up until she could break free at about 6 months. I also used to just spend hours walking around pushing her in her pram to get some peace!<br />Even with Iyla at this age, I have good days and bad days. Some days I enjoy her company so much and other days I want to go and hide upstairs! Kids are bloody hard work. Especially in those first few months when your hormones are all over the place. Glad things are better now though xxMum2BabyInsomniachttp://www.mum2babyinsomniac.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-48237212871215232842012-12-10T07:16:58.565+00:002012-12-10T07:16:58.565+00:00I came here via Liska (although I have been here b...I came here via Liska (although I have been here before). As a single mother I remember times when I'd just had enough. I just wanted one whole day (and night) to myself and of course, I couldn't. My DD is now 4 and I can honestly say that we've had our wonderful times and our not so wonderful times. The overall is definitely positive though. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-69438846394121616222012-12-10T01:30:40.981+00:002012-12-10T01:30:40.981+00:00i have found being a mum to two extremely hard an...i have found being a mum to two extremely hard and there is no way in hell i would have a 3rd. <br />both my boys have been very different too and Jenson is so much more of a mummy's boy and i have found this hard going and almost suffocating at times.<br />i hope things are getting easier - we all think like this Lucy and seeing all the comments above mine you are most def not alone. <br />well done on writing it x x Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10524620493101422101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-21011909911042526842012-12-09T22:28:29.915+00:002012-12-09T22:28:29.915+00:00Can so relate to your post. Brought tears to my ey...Can so relate to your post. Brought tears to my eyes. I had the opposite problem in that my daughter the baby was good as gold but my son (22 months old when she was born) chose that moment to hit the terrible twos. You think you'll know what you're doing second time round but as you say they are completely different little people. I found my son the challenge as he had jealousy issues and seemed very upset with me for "replacing" him in his position as my baby. It does get easier though. They are 4 and 2 now and they give each other kisses and yes they do fight but they are also so sweet together (see blog post about being doggies). Hang on in there. It does get easier!!!Mum in a Hurryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031793595930080644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-78011011758580387632012-12-09T20:58:38.374+00:002012-12-09T20:58:38.374+00:00what a beautiful post. I can remember going throu...what a beautiful post. I can remember going through similar feelings on my 2nd AND 3rd pregnancies but it does get better and all slot into place I promise. I think it is imperative that you get "time out" whenever you can. That to me is a real sanity saver. I am so glad that Liska nominated you as her blog post of the week in the #PAPS. <br /><br />Have a good weekSuper Amazing Mumhttp://www.superamazingmum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-53711535823596977282012-12-09T20:07:32.698+00:002012-12-09T20:07:32.698+00:00Ahhh, thanks. I know that feeling so well, where y...Ahhh, thanks. I know that feeling so well, where you kind of feel happy a fair amount of the time, but then are suddenly in tears or just plain mad. I think a lot of the trouble just sorts itself out as time passes through a combination of getting to know each other and them just growing up a bit. I hope things are better for you soon, and rest assured you aren't alone. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-53769387768273933082012-12-09T20:04:57.415+00:002012-12-09T20:04:57.415+00:00It's definitely like being a new mum some days...It's definitely like being a new mum some days. I think I came along feeling all confident with my experience and she's just knocked me down a peg or two and reminded me who is boss around here. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-45683308924022563422012-12-09T20:03:35.486+00:002012-12-09T20:03:35.486+00:00It's many things, but simple really isn't ...It's many things, but simple really isn't one of them. :) xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-15723917138340357502012-12-09T19:30:47.331+00:002012-12-09T19:30:47.331+00:00What a wonderfully honest post. I'm going thro...What a wonderfully honest post. I'm going through a similar phase at the moment with my first baby who is just 11 weeks and my protective barrier is to turn to humour to help me through but today has been hard again and I've been flitting between anger borne out of frustration, tiredness and tears. I nickname my baby Little Missy aka She Who Never Sleeps and we haven't managed to find a way to help her just yet. Half way through me reading this, she started to cry whilst being changed for her feed. The hubster and I calmed her down and now, he is trying to give her the bottle to give me a break from breastfeeding and she is wailing whilst I type with the tears falling down my face. BUT, it's good to know we will find a way and I'll be jumping out of bed happily soon. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel sad all day but knowing what her needs are every minute of the day can be very very hard work. Thanks for sharing. I follow you already but came to this post via NewMumOnline #PAPS. As ever, beautiful photographs.Mojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17095007778981779330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-12548959993418415672012-12-08T21:57:10.713+00:002012-12-08T21:57:10.713+00:00I applaud you for writing this post and you hit th...I applaud you for writing this post and you hit the nail on the head - you might think you know how to cope with a baby once you've had one but in reality when that next baby comes along, you almost have to start from the beginning again. I always find it amazing the quirks and personalities each child has, even from this early age. Hope things are improving, it does get easier and having two is awesomeAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04221289003579950395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-3194678037346073912012-12-07T21:52:43.327+00:002012-12-07T21:52:43.327+00:00I'm not sure how I did not read this post. Tha...I'm not sure how I did not read this post. Thanks for being honest and sharing such a difficult story. Being a mum is never simple.Brinabird the wee man the Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05349923834774318797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-39350203199986641952012-12-07T18:15:12.110+00:002012-12-07T18:15:12.110+00:00Thanks. Getting it all out (and then getting so mu...Thanks. Getting it all out (and then getting so much fantastic support) has definitely helped. That and the fact that swaddling has transformed her into a different child. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-78867928730720981372012-12-07T18:14:19.674+00:002012-12-07T18:14:19.674+00:00Thank-you so much. It can be tough with two, but i...Thank-you so much. It can be tough with two, but it's absolutely fantastic too. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-28425012744947874732012-12-07T18:13:32.223+00:002012-12-07T18:13:32.223+00:00In honesty, most people probably would think she&#...In honesty, most people probably would think she's a pretty easy baby. I just hate the fact I don't get the time with her and so she seems so sad. It really presses that mummy guilt button.<br />It's nice to hear that other people are going through the same thing, not that I'd wish it on anyone, but it's nice to know I'm not alone. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-11261837789923069092012-12-07T18:09:39.357+00:002012-12-07T18:09:39.357+00:00I think it's just difference and change that a...I think it's just difference and change that are tricky. It's so much easier to deal with what you know. <br />And I think I'm a total swaddle convert, I really wanted to swaddle the boy but I'm so glad that the baby girl loves it. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-35003949728910773072012-12-07T18:00:23.413+00:002012-12-07T18:00:23.413+00:00Thank-you. It is tough to change when you are expe...Thank-you. It is tough to change when you are expecting things to be a certain way. I think I just need to cut myself some more slack and allow her to be a different person and just work out what she likes. We're getting there. <br />And thanks for the offer of a listening ear, I'll take you up on it next time we hit a bump in the road. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-9556491554614201482012-12-07T17:58:11.378+00:002012-12-07T17:58:11.378+00:00Awww, thank-you. I hope it does help other mummies...Awww, thank-you. I hope it does help other mummies,if only to let them know it's okay for it to be tough and you don't have to be fantastic every single second of every day. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-67060331528315351982012-12-07T17:57:12.153+00:002012-12-07T17:57:12.153+00:00They are definitely totally different. And isn'...They are definitely totally different. And isn't it funny that so many people have daughters who loved swaddling and boys who hated it. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-9892279453638689572012-12-07T17:56:53.832+00:002012-12-07T17:56:53.832+00:00You sound like you are doing a really incredible j...You sound like you are doing a really incredible job. I only have one and I found her very difficult as a newborn so I can't imagine juggling two. I hope sharing your thoughts has been helpful and I hope it continues to get easier. Big hug xxThree for a girlhttp://www.34agirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-6488456994565589802012-12-07T17:56:26.393+00:002012-12-07T17:56:26.393+00:00Thank-you. It's so hard not to compare, in fac...Thank-you. It's so hard not to compare, in fact practically impossible when that is the parenting experience you have to draw from. But we're getting to know her more each day and things are getting easier. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511297148381608839.post-21383373516393710962012-12-07T17:55:07.288+00:002012-12-07T17:55:07.288+00:00Thank-you. Doesn't feel it some days, but than...Thank-you. Doesn't feel it some days, but thank-you. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.com